What is wrong with me?
Do you ask yourself this question frequently?
Do you feel like it is your fault that you haven’t found love yet?
Do you blame yourself for being single?
You can stop now as this is not going to get you out of your current situation.
It is not your fault that the right person hasn’t shown up in your life yet.
As much as some internal obstacles (limiting beliefs and fears) might be preventing you from meeting him, blaming yourself won’t help you meet him. It will only make you feel worse about yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you. You haven’t done anything wrong either. Apart from maybe not loving yourself enough.
You just haven’t met the right guy yet but that that doesn’t mean you are not lovable, not datable, not marriageable.
You haven’t yet met a suitable person who you would like to establish a relationship with: end of story. You don’t need to beat yourself up about it.
Just because you don’t have a partner, it doesn’t mean you suck. The same applies when you meet a partner you don’t suddenly become a more valuable person.
A relationship or another person can’t make you feel more valuable or lovable.
You either are or you are not. This has nothing to do with external forces.
You either feel worthy or you don’t. Nobody can make you feel this way.
If you don’t feel worthy while you are single, it will also show up and sabotage your relationships.
You need to find it within. You need to start loving yourself before you meet The One. It is an inside job.
This will make you more desirable and ready for a real partnership.
Asking yourself the question ‘what is wrong with me?’ is not going to get you anywhere.
If anything, it will just make you feel worse about yourself and you don’t want that.
Instead you can ask yourself questions which will make you feel better about yourself.
What do I like about myself?
What makes me a catch?
What do I value the most about myself?
What makes me happy?
What do people usually compliment me on?
These questions will help you focus on good things. They will help you recognise your own value and raise your self-esteem. They will uplift you and bring more positivity to your life.
If you are in the mood of connecting with other single ladies and have a little laugh over a glass of wine you can’t miss my free meet up on 28th April! This month’s topic is “How to spot a Quality Man, and stop wasting time on Boys”. Come and join us! Find more details here.