Self-love is sweeter than chocolate!
Whether you are a happy single or a miserable singleton, Valentine’s Day will stir some emotions in you. It’s hard to avoid it as it is so heavily commercialised and in your face. Pink flowers, red hearts, yummy chocolates, fluffy teddy bears are all over the place.
Just because everywhere you look is going mad for Valentine’s Day, you don’t need to go mad with it. You can decide how you want to spend this day. You have a choice – focus on you. Shower yourself with love! Do something you love doing! Do something for your soul!
Make it a day when you give yourself as much love, attention and time as the best lover would. In fact become your best lover for one day! Romance yourself.
You can find many tips suggesting you buy yourself chocolates, flowers or maybe even a bigger treat. But why not try these steps for creating more self-love in your heart and then enjoy the chocolates even more.
Start it on the right foot
How about starting your day with a nice and simple heart meditation? Simply close your eyes, relax and move your attention from your head to your heart. Connect with the energy of love which is your heart. Feel it expand further onto your body and even beyond your body, send it to other people, to the world. We spend so much time in our head that being in your heart for a few minutes per day can make you feel very different. To help you establish this morning habit I encourage you to grab this free audio done by my dear friend Gosia Gorna. You can get it from here.
Choose to be grateful not cynical
Stay aware throughout the day and whenever you go into the mode, “It sucks that I am single and don’t have a partner to share this day with”, you come up with 3 things you enjoy about your life as a single. So for me it was; the freedom of choice, the independence I had, the time I had to do whatever I wanted to do; seeing my friends, reading my books, having a blissful bath with bubbles and candles. Just turn your thinking around and focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. Feel free and grateful as one day you will miss it. Remember to love yourself and keep reconnecting with your heart.
No one is saying what we feel is wrong or that our moments of singledom sadness are not valid. That said we should always be aware of others and if we truly put our hand on our heart, we would agree there are far worse things than being single. It also helps to remember that you are single because you would rather be with the right person (and it can take a little bit of time to find him!) than with anybody.
Share the love
Love is one of those wonderful things, the more you give, the more you receive. Keep spreading the love on this day in any form. You can spend it with someone you love (a friend or a family member). You can spend it doing things you love or giving love to others (volunteering, helping neighbours or friends). You can do a bit of healing too and send your love and blessings to all your exes. It will free some space up in your heart for a new man. Please don’t misunderstand me; I’m not suggesting you contact an ex.
If you want to be more productive why don’t you spend some time clarifying for yourself what you really want in your next relationship? What do you want from your next partner? Who would you like to be in your next relationship? Fantasize, visualise and then write them down, so they feel more achievable to you.
The whole point is instead of feeling kind of funny on 14th February you choose to feel the love, celebrate you and enjoy it! Embrace the opportunity; self-love is your first step towards that loving relationship with your dream partner.